the insight on forgiveness

Forgiveness is a decision, not a feeling.
If you wait until something or someone makes things happen before you start forgiving,
you will be waiting your whole life!

When you forgive, it doesn’t mean you approve of what others did to you.

Forgiveness is actually a gift you give to yourself, giving you permission to move on with your life.

Anger, bitterness and hatred can consume and dominate you.
It changes who you really are.
It can contaminate your relationships with other people.
It can poison you on all levels of your body – emotionally, physically,
mentally and spiritually until it manifests into illness or diseases.
It will follow you wherever you go, no matter how many times you move and “run away” from your
problems,
your problems are just sitting on your shoulder until you decide to “let them go”.

Since people are human, humans are not perfect and they can make mistakes.
You can face these people if they wronged you and if you don’t get what you need from them
in order for you to move on with your life, then give yourself permission to “let it go” and disconnect
or unplug your relationship from them, if you wish.

Remember, “People can not give you what they don’t have.”
For example, if someone doesn’t have the ability in their hearts to apologize, you won’t get any
sincere apology from them.

If a person lacks empathy, they won’t have the ability to put themselves in your shoes and
understand what you went through.

Do not give your power away to others.

The only person that controls you is you.
By constantly relieving the past, you are giving the person who wronged you permission to control your life!

You can not change what has happened in the past.
You can not go back in time to undo it but you can decide what you want for the future.
You can get help and the support you need.
You can bring healing to yourself and others.
You can be an advocate and a spokesperson.
You can view it as a learning experience to make yourself stronger than you are now.
You may ask, “But what happens to that ***** who wronged me?
I want him/her to suffer!”

Well, what goes around comes around!
The best revenge is living well!

There is no timeline for recovery.
Time doesn’t mend broken hearts.
It is what you do with your time that matters most.

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